Intro: HUMANS NATURALLY STRIVE TO DO BETTER. WE ALL WANT TO BE THE BEST POSSIBLE VERSIONS OF OURSELVES. GETTING THERE JUST REQUIRES A LITTLE WORK. IF YOU WANT TO BE A BETTER STUDENT, EMPLOYEE, MOTHER, DAUGHTER OR SIGNIFICANT OTHER YOU CAN BE, AND HOPEFULLY I CAN HELP. WHILE I’M NO EXPERT, I AM PRETTY GOOD AT FINDING PEOPLE WHO ARE EXPERTS AND GETTING THEIR ADVICE. THAT’S WHAT I HOPE TO DO OVER THE NEXT NINE WEEKS, WITH A SERIES OF BLOG POSTS ALL ON THE SUBJECT OF “HOW TO BE BETTER.”
Whether it’s with friends, family members, coworkers or partners, being able to maintain strong and healthy relationships is so incredibly important for living a healthy, happy life.People are not born with natural abilities to develop and build great relationships with others. These are skills like any other that can be learned and mastered if one recognizes the need and takes the time and effort to develop them. We can all become better at building and maintaining relationships by following a few simple tips.
1. Remember that nobody owes you anything or cares about you all that much
Everyone cares far more about themselves than they do about you. This is not a bad thing. It’s a way of reminding yourself not to get too wrapped up in what others think of you, because they hardly ever do. Once you realize that the world owes you nothing, you’re free to do anything.
2. Be a good listener
Everyone has the basic desire to be heard and understood. Unfortunately few of us are taught how to be great listeners. Most people are too busy thinking of what they want to say next to really listen to what the other person is saying. When you notice yourself doing this, take a breath and correct your pattern by listening well. We naturally bond with people who really listen, hear us, and that we’d want to spend time with.
There is no more beautiful sound to our ears than the sound of our own name. Remembering people’s names is the first step to relationship building, and remembering other important aspects about them continues the building process. They will tell us what is important in their lives, all we need to do is listen and pay attention.
4. Identify your own needs
Look at your own relationship needs. Do you know what you need from others? And do you know what they need from you? Understanding these needs can be instrumental in building better relationships.
5. Schedule time for relationship building
Devote a portion of your day toward relationship building, even if it’s just 20 minutes, perhaps broken up into five-minute segments. It can be reaching out to people online through social media, getting coffee, or even just a simple phone call. These little interactions help build the foundation of a good relationship, especially if they’re face-to-face.